My Blog, my journey… or something like that :o)

OH WELL… soil, joel, oil, noel…. this has been my favorite expression for the past week. hehehe… i don’t how i got this expression in my system but thinking about it makes me smile. the way it sounds when i say it, sometimes through self-talk, i would sense a feeling of surrender…giving up… resignation or simply the "that’s-the-way-it-is" attitude.

funny how things are affecting me recently. i’m just thankful that simple things like my "expression" would be a nice topic in my blog…. and that despite of some disorder happening around me, i can still do some self-talk to psyche up myself to go and simply say… OH WELL….

i miss posting blogs… been very busy for the past month! huhuhu… but i beleive things will be working out well for me. been thing about the material below, got this from a workshopi attended a DECADE ago, hehehe… why am posting this? oh well, because i just want to remind myself about how to deal with my relationships… vague, hehehe… maybe that’s just how i feel for now… guess what i think i have to edit this blog after i post this, hahaha! anyways, i’m sharing this to my "friendsters"…. may you get something from this article…God bless everyone…

A CREDO for my Relationships

You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is as a separate person with unique needs and the right to meet those needs.

When you are having problems meeting your needs, I will try to listen with genuine acceptance, in order to facilitate your finding your own solutions instead of depending on mine. I also will try to respect your right to choose your own beliefs and develop your own values, different though they may be from mine.

However, when your behavior interferes with what I must do to get my own needs met, I will tell you openly and honestly how your behavior affects me, trusting that you respect my needs and feelings enough to change the behavior that is unacceptable to me. Also, whenever some behavior of mine is unacceptable to you, I hope you will tell me openly and honestly so I can try to change my behavior.

At those times, when we find that either of us cannot change to meet the other’s needs, let us acknowledge that we have a conflict and commit ourselves to resolve each such conflict without either of us resorting to the use of power or authority to win at the expense of the other’s losing. I respect your needs, but I also must respect my own. So let us always strive to search for a solution that will be acceptable to both of us. Your needs will be met, so will mine – neither will lose, both will win.

In this way, you can continue to develop as a person through satisfying your needs, and so can I. Thus, ours can be a health relationship in which both of us can strive to become what we are capable of being and we can continue to relate to each other with mutual respect, care, love and peace.